When Your Child Cuts Contact

Your child has left home. The messages stop. The silence grows.
And then comes the blow:

“I don’t want to see you anymore. At least not for now.”

Going for coffee with your adult child? Seeing your grandchildren? It’s no longer an option. The dream of connection — shattered.

You ask yourself: How did it come to this?

Sometimes you hear a scrap of news through others. You search online for signs — a photo, a post, a glimpse.
But real contact? It’s gone.

A Storm of Emotions

At first, you try to stay calm. Maybe it’s a phase. Maybe they need space.

But the uncertainty grows. You wonder:

Are they okay? Are they healthy?

Is someone influencing them?

What did I do wrong?

How can I fix this if I don’t even know what’s broken?

You feel anger, guilt, fear, shame.
You struggle to sleep. You feel alone. And you don’t talk about it — because who would understand?

You’ve Tried Everything

You’ve reached out. You’ve respected their request for space.
You’ve hoped. Waited. Watched for signs of change.

But nothing changes.

And now, you’re left with the painful truth:
I can’t live like this — but somehow, I must.

You’re Not Alone

I support parents who are living with this heartbreak.
Parents who are still standing — but barely — with a hole in their hearts.

Many of my clients hope for reconciliation. That is completely human.
But no one can promise that outcome.

So what can we work toward?

A Different Kind of Healing

I help you find peace — not by “letting go,” but by learning to live with what is.

Through our work together, you will soften the grip of guilt, shame, anger, and grief

– Reconnect with yourself, your strength, and your joy

– Learn to accept reality — without giving up hope

Acceptance isn’t defeat. It’s the first step toward healing.
It’s not about your child’s choices. It’s about your response. Your path forward.

The Programme

This is a three-month, one-to-one journey designed for deep healing:

– Two private 60-minute sessions per month (six total)

– Weekly 30-minute phone check-ins

– Personalised reflection exercises to support your growth

You choose the format:

– In-person sessions in Castricum

– Walk-and-talk coaching in the nearby nature

– Online via Zoom — available in English or Dutch

This programme is for parents ready to take full ownership of their story — with courage, compassion, and commitment.

Ready to Begin?

If you’re feeling that now is the time — not to change your child, but to heal yourself — I’m here to support you.

Let’s walk this road together.
With honesty. With an open heart. With hope.

Sometimes the programme is not enough. Than follow-up sessions will be helpful. 

By the way: also elderly people who want to put things together, who want to heal afterall, at the end of their life, are very welcome as well.